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My husband - 'K'
Cynia
1 post
Sep 22, 2009
9:56 AM
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Hello, i am new to this so...
My husband Kelly, is a christian who has been led by the LORD in the past from the military to then become a padre in the military to leave the military in 2000 to become a small groups pastor at a large church where we now reside. He left the church following GOD's leading to start a cell church in June 2006. After a year and a half of nothing working according to Kelly's way of doing things, he gave up in January of 2008 and the short of it is he no longer reads his Bible or comes to church with me and our two sons 8 & 10 yrs old. Yesterday i was on the computer and happened to look in the history of the websites that had been visited and along with war movies from UTube there were many porno videos he watched, (who else could it be?) i am shocked and have not confronted him, he has a lot of unresolved issues in his life that he has never dealt with. He is very good and evading and avoiding everything that he does not want to talk about. He has in the past as a pastor helped so many people, and everyone thinks he is so great, (but they have never lived with him). He is a good man that GOD has used in the past, but now he won't even come to church and finds fault with everything. Please pray for him and wisdom for me to know when and what to say or wait longer for the LORD to work this out when it is the right time. Thank you .......... c
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Laura
619 posts
Sep 24, 2009
6:57 PM
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On Tuesday evening on TS we prayed for you, our sister in Christ and for your whole family.
Cynia, The Lord is bigger than any problem. The enemy has targeted your husband as he does many of God's children because they can be a threat to him and gorify God through their life.Father, we hold up Cynia, her two sons and Kelly.
We ask that you strengthen Cynia and the children for the near future when you begin to show how you are working in Kelly's life. We have been told by the Holy Scripture that if we have but a mustard seed of faith that we can point to any mountain and have it moved. We ask in Jesus name that the mountain of sin and pain in this family be removed. We claim Kelly for the Kingdom of God and for all of those who need him back.
We ask this in Jesus name. And, we thank you in advance for his healing of the Spirit of You in him. Amen.
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Rick
1168 posts
Sep 24, 2009
7:49 PM
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Hi Cynia,
Sorry to hear about the problem. I will join Laura and the others in prayer
for you and your family.Just some FYI > kids watch porn and have sex at 11 and 12 years old and
probably younger these days. Tv, video and movies slam sex into kids and
their curiosity overwhelms them.
My gut guess is that your husband knows how to delete history, cookies and files.
There is another place in the computer where you can even see what has been
watched on windows media player or on real player.
I don't know if your kids know how to delete those things (YET) If it is your husband he is awful careless or very new to the computer.
I would rule out the kids first..Clear the history before the kids get on the computer,
when they are not in front of you (so they don't learn) and then let them on it.
You could do that with Kelly too. If it's the kids it can be blocked. Since your husband is sealed with the Holy Spirit, I believe he will be back.
Continue to pray for him and the kids. The Lord will guide you in this matter,
your heart is right, but be patient...Gods time
Remember; it will be the unctioning of the spirit that brings him back, he will 'again' find his
true identity from inside his heart.
If it is Kelly with the porn..that is a strong addiction to overcome, he himself will one day
ask God for forgiveness and for divine help.
Porn addiction can be like an alcoholic or drug user or anything else the flesh fiends on. I pray God gives you peace through this.
Remember sometimes we fall and God lets us all fall, he knows we will be back and with
a stronger desire then what drew us away. God Bless...Rick .
Last Edited on 25-Sep-2009 5:20 AM
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hannah123
466 posts
Sep 28, 2009
7:57 AM
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Father, I join in prayer with Rick and Laura for Cynia and her family. Father, Kelly is suffering and has not found his way back to You yet. Remind Kelly of Your saving Grace and bring him back into Your loving arms. Sustain our sister Cynia, and her children. Build a hedge around them and protect them, in Jesus' Name, Amen
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Loving the LORD more every dayHannah123aka Audrey
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Cynia
2 posts
Oct 12, 2009
12:23 PM
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Thank you all for praying. No good news yet, i did confront my husband last night Sunday (he did it again while we, my sons and i were at church, 2nd time i am aware of) about the porn on the internet, he skirted around what i was saying. Today, thanksgiving he deleted the history. I told him i care and am concerned etc, and he replied with i gave up the right to care years ago when i wouldn't do as he wanted me to, i am not sure what he is talking about. I think he is just trying to justify his actions and behaviour, i think he maybe depressed, i suggest he go for help but he tells me to forget it.
I am waiting for GOD to work on my husband, and don't know what else to say or do.
Thank you for your prayers.
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hannah123
484 posts
Oct 12, 2009
2:58 PM
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Cynia;
Sometimes God has to beat us down before we will come to the Cross. I have an unbelieving husband. Although he is not into porn, he does not believe in Jesus and is annoyed at my dedication to the LORD (thankfully, he does not interfere and leaves me to it). Perhaps Kelly is not sufficiently beaten down yet. The LORD might also be teaching you patience. I know He is teaching me.... And His timing is not ours.All I can say in encouragement is that the LORD will not let Kelly go forever. The Word says so. Heavenly Father, see the pain in Cynia's heart. She doesn't know how to best deal with the obsession that has enslaved Kelly. Give her wisdom as she immerses herself in the Bible to get the answers she needs, and guide her in what she should do. Grant her the Peace of Jesus that surpasses all understanding, as she navigates through this difficult situation, LORD. I pray this in the Holy Name of Jesus, my Savior, Amen.
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Loving the LORD more every day Hannah123aka Audrey
Last Edited on 30-Oct-2009 6:56 AM
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Laura
664 posts
Oct 16, 2009
7:08 PM
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Cynia, Please if you haven't done so yet talk to your pastor and tell him all. There is so much compassion in the heart of a good minister. He may have people who can gently approach your husband or at least be there when your husband wants help. Father, IJN we ask that you strengthen Cynia so much that she is able to walk through this situation in Your rest. Matt11:28 Be with her and her children and put a protection around her that cannot be penetrated by the enemy. Give her provision. Give her Your hope Father and let her see Jesus every time this pain comes into her soul. Give her a new song that she can sing....We plead the Blood of the Lamb. Amen.
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Cynia
3 posts
Nov 22, 2009
3:57 PM
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Thank you all for your prayers! Bless you all.
He has come to church with us since i confronted him, except for today. He stayed home, i don't know if he went on the computer as he now knows i am checking the history of websites visited. i do not know how to check the history of the media player or such. We went to a memorial service yesterday at the church he pastored at, and put on a good face for everyone there. i am praying someone would see thru it and call him and reach out to him. i have spoken to a pastor friend who did contact Kelly for coffee and spoke to him in generalities, and of course that came back to me as don't "sic someone on me again or i will be rude to them next time". So i wait and pray and pray.
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